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Who said that men are commitment-phobic and don’t wish to marry? We report on the misconception
“What do you think son?”
“No, dad. It’s not the right time.”
Men and marriage seem mutually exclusive quite often. And, why not? They appear to fall in and out of love everyday, but marriage never seems to be on their cards. At least, that is the common notion. But is this a fact? No. Men do want to get married, it’s just that they are never in a hurry.
Sahil Khan, a lifestyle activist, says, “Marriage is not bad. It’s an extension of your relationship, and an acceptance of it by the society. What I can’t relate to is a proposal by a girl in the first meeting. I feel everything should happen only when the right time comes. When you are committed to a woman, nothing should freak you out, not even marriage.”
Men don’t shy away from marriage and lifetime commitment. Tariq Wasim, a physiotherapist, is one of them. He says, “I feel that marriage as an institution is very good. It is all about commitment and living life in a more holistic manner. It’s an absolutely amazing thing, but only if you know how to handle it well.” So when does he plan to get married? “Let’s see. I should get married in a couple of years,” he says.
When men find their perfect match, they take the idea of marriage very seriously. Software engineer, Vivek Thakur agrees, “I’m steady in my relationship since three years now, and we are going to get engaged soon. My girlfriend is my best friend. We understand each other and respect each other’s space. When you get a good friend in your woman, marriage does you good. Marriage is a huge decision, and coming to such a conclusion should take time. If either the man or the woman is not ready or convinced, things will never fall in place.”
Commenting on men and marriage, actor, Vrishasen Dabholkar, says,“Most men want to have all the fun before they get married. They feel it’s worthless to stick to one woman, when they can go for flings.” So what is his take on marriage? He says, “I completely believe in marriage though. Frankly, I would like to settle down first before taking such a decision.” But, he adds, “If you get married to the person whom you know well, then it’s the most beautiful thing to do.”
Entrepreneur Shrey Lahoti agrees, “Whenever I have a stressful day, coming back to my girlfriend helps me destress. She talks nineteen to a dozen, and helps me forget everything else. I will get married to her in a few years. Frankly, I was never a committed kind of a guy. But today, I’ve my perfect woman with me. Being with her makes me feel like I’m the best man in the world.”
Not all men speak of marriage openly, but that doesn’t mean that they disrespect the whole institution. Girl, don’t force him and take things slow. If he loves you, marriage will automatically fall in place.
“What do you think son?”
“No, dad. It’s not the right time.”
Men and marriage seem mutually exclusive quite often. And, why not? They appear to fall in and out of love everyday, but marriage never seems to be on their cards. At least, that is the common notion. But is this a fact? No. Men do want to get married, it’s just that they are never in a hurry.
Sahil Khan, a lifestyle activist, says, “Marriage is not bad. It’s an extension of your relationship, and an acceptance of it by the society. What I can’t relate to is a proposal by a girl in the first meeting. I feel everything should happen only when the right time comes. When you are committed to a woman, nothing should freak you out, not even marriage.”
Men don’t shy away from marriage and lifetime commitment. Tariq Wasim, a physiotherapist, is one of them. He says, “I feel that marriage as an institution is very good. It is all about commitment and living life in a more holistic manner. It’s an absolutely amazing thing, but only if you know how to handle it well.” So when does he plan to get married? “Let’s see. I should get married in a couple of years,” he says.
When men find their perfect match, they take the idea of marriage very seriously. Software engineer, Vivek Thakur agrees, “I’m steady in my relationship since three years now, and we are going to get engaged soon. My girlfriend is my best friend. We understand each other and respect each other’s space. When you get a good friend in your woman, marriage does you good. Marriage is a huge decision, and coming to such a conclusion should take time. If either the man or the woman is not ready or convinced, things will never fall in place.”
Commenting on men and marriage, actor, Vrishasen Dabholkar, says,“Most men want to have all the fun before they get married. They feel it’s worthless to stick to one woman, when they can go for flings.” So what is his take on marriage? He says, “I completely believe in marriage though. Frankly, I would like to settle down first before taking such a decision.” But, he adds, “If you get married to the person whom you know well, then it’s the most beautiful thing to do.”
Entrepreneur Shrey Lahoti agrees, “Whenever I have a stressful day, coming back to my girlfriend helps me destress. She talks nineteen to a dozen, and helps me forget everything else. I will get married to her in a few years. Frankly, I was never a committed kind of a guy. But today, I’ve my perfect woman with me. Being with her makes me feel like I’m the best man in the world.”
Not all men speak of marriage openly, but that doesn’t mean that they disrespect the whole institution. Girl, don’t force him and take things slow. If he loves you, marriage will automatically fall in place.
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