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Some tips on how you can have a guilt-free break-up.
Are you feeling guilty that you have dumped your guy/ girl? Do you blame yourself for hurting your ex-partner in the process of moving out?
You need to organise your life and get over the feelings of guilt after you have bid good-bye to the relationship and moved on. Read on to find out how...
Do you deserve the guilt?
Breaking up with your partner may not be such a bad thing but the reason you broke up may be the problem. Student Sunhit S reveals, “One of my best friends was in a relationship with a guy purely for some specific reasons. The fact that he had money, and a great network of powerful people was what egged her on and after using him to her benefit she unceremoniously dumped him.” This kind of reason for a break-up may later lead to guilt and regret. And the best way to deal with it is to offer a sincere apology to your ex and then let him/her figure out what to do next.
Learn to trust your decisions
When a couple breaks up there are people around who try and make them feel guilty. You might have done all the things possible to make your relationship successful but the relationship may simply not have worked. Instead of remembering what your partner and you had done wrong, you must remember the sacrifices and efforts you made to make your relationship successful.
Reason it out
If the reason for your break-up with your partner is something as serious as cheating, then you have no reason to feel guilty about breaking up at all. If you have found him/ her cheating more than once then you have done the right thing by walking away from the relationship. You must be happy that you got rid of the unfaithful partner and shouldn’t think of giving another chance to him/her again.
You broke-up for a reason
People do not break up just for the heck of it. It is not a decision that a couple takes out of the blue. If your partner and you had a happy and successful relationship why would either of you break-up? You need to keep in mind always that your break-up happened for a reason. You must realise that your friends, family, colleagues and co-workers do not get the full picture.
Find out the motive for guilt
What is the real motive of the person who is trying to make you feel guilty? Everyone has his/her own motives to make you feel bad for breaking up a relationship but that does not mean that they have bad intentions towards you. Sometimes, your friends and family see their own benefits associated with yours. Student Saumya N agrees, “My cousin used to blame me for breaking up because he had a crush on my ex’s sister!”
The bottom line is that you need to realise that you cannot and need not try and please everyone. If you are convinced that dumping your guy/girl was the right decision then you should stop feeling guilty and get on with your life!
Are you feeling guilty that you have dumped your guy/ girl? Do you blame yourself for hurting your ex-partner in the process of moving out?
You need to organise your life and get over the feelings of guilt after you have bid good-bye to the relationship and moved on. Read on to find out how...
Do you deserve the guilt?
Breaking up with your partner may not be such a bad thing but the reason you broke up may be the problem. Student Sunhit S reveals, “One of my best friends was in a relationship with a guy purely for some specific reasons. The fact that he had money, and a great network of powerful people was what egged her on and after using him to her benefit she unceremoniously dumped him.” This kind of reason for a break-up may later lead to guilt and regret. And the best way to deal with it is to offer a sincere apology to your ex and then let him/her figure out what to do next.
Learn to trust your decisions
When a couple breaks up there are people around who try and make them feel guilty. You might have done all the things possible to make your relationship successful but the relationship may simply not have worked. Instead of remembering what your partner and you had done wrong, you must remember the sacrifices and efforts you made to make your relationship successful.
Reason it out
If the reason for your break-up with your partner is something as serious as cheating, then you have no reason to feel guilty about breaking up at all. If you have found him/ her cheating more than once then you have done the right thing by walking away from the relationship. You must be happy that you got rid of the unfaithful partner and shouldn’t think of giving another chance to him/her again.
You broke-up for a reason
People do not break up just for the heck of it. It is not a decision that a couple takes out of the blue. If your partner and you had a happy and successful relationship why would either of you break-up? You need to keep in mind always that your break-up happened for a reason. You must realise that your friends, family, colleagues and co-workers do not get the full picture.
Find out the motive for guilt
What is the real motive of the person who is trying to make you feel guilty? Everyone has his/her own motives to make you feel bad for breaking up a relationship but that does not mean that they have bad intentions towards you. Sometimes, your friends and family see their own benefits associated with yours. Student Saumya N agrees, “My cousin used to blame me for breaking up because he had a crush on my ex’s sister!”
The bottom line is that you need to realise that you cannot and need not try and please everyone. If you are convinced that dumping your guy/girl was the right decision then you should stop feeling guilty and get on with your life!
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